Every thought and emotion has its purpose. But, unfortunately, most of us were taught as kids to suppress or repress our “negative” emotions or thoughts. “Don’t cry!” “Don’t be a pussy!” “Man up!” “There’s nothing to be afraid of!” “Don’t embarrass us!” “Why are you angry now? Stop it!” Sounds familiar?
Our parents and educators were doing the best they know, and they were teaching us about life and emotions only from the experience and knowledge they have. If only they knew what a mess they were creating by having kids suppress their emotions and true nature.
Still, it is what it is. And thankfully now we have so many resources available to learn from about how to get those emotions “out”, how to dive deep, how to face them and embrace them.
Repressed vs suppressed emotions
When we suppress an emotion, we reject its purpose. For example, if we deny our fear, we do not have complete access to the energy that fear connects us with, nor are we entirely aware of the dangers that set the energy of fear in motion.
Repressed aspects often include emotions or desires, especially those that might be considered embarrassing or disturbing that we are not even aware of. This means that we have taken on a difficult or unpleasant emotion that we are not comfortable with (mostly related to childhood experiences) and we have hidden it in our unconscious to such an extent that we are no longer aware that we have it at all. Repression causes emotional stiffness.
When we know we have a feeling we don’t want to feel, and we consciously try to avoid it, that’s suppression. We suppress by intellectually denying the reality of an emotion and desensitising our awareness of the movement and pressure of that emotional energy within us.
The degree to which we suppress one emotion or sensation is the degree to which we suppress all contrasting emotions or sensations.
So it is really important that we accept and integrate all the suppressed and repressed emotions in us.
How to integrate suppressed emotions
It all starts with facing the starting emotion and allowing ourselves to feel it in full capacity. If we manage to do that, the underlying suppressed content (emotions, thoughts or sensations) start unfolding. Soon, the main cause of the starting problem appears. Once this root cause is integrated, the feelings of relief, peace, gratitude, love or similar high vibrational emotions come to the surface. Your original state.
PEAT methods are perfect for helping you and guiding you in this process. They also make the process as quick and efficient as possible by using acupressure points for activating the left and right side of the brain.
One of the PEAT methods – DP2 – is perfect for quick integration. It quickly helps you find the real underlying cause of a certain emotion or problem, which is usually a suppressed and repressed emotion or thought.
Deep PEAT is going a step further, deeper – it integrates both negative and positive content, the polarities, into one.
Once you integrate the “negative”, uncomfortable emotion and its polarity, (contrasting, opposite emotion) you are in control of both of them. You are not playing the game between those two anymore. And it feels pretty amazing. Suddenly you have so much more time in your life, when subconsciously you are not playing the game anymore.
I will write more on this unconscious game we play soon. Such an interesting topic.
If you need help with finding and integrating your repressed and suppressed emotions, contact me. Schedule your free intro consultation here.
Love, peace and unity,
Anamarija Ferrari
Personal Growth Coach certified in PEAT and FAIR transformational methods
